Rekindling the Romance in a Marriage

By Jennifer Williams

At the beginning of a relationship, the romance makes the couple positively euphoric, so overjoyed in fact, that sometimes it causes their friends roll their eyes. Good marriages foster feelings of trust and inter-dependence, but occasionally seems there is no spark left from the old days. Yet the spark of romance does not have to be stifled by familiarity and in fact, many couples still feel passionate for each other, at any age, with any number of kids.

Some people, not just men but also women, cringe when their partner says they want to talk. Talking might seem like some abstract, humorless conversation about the future or some problem, which some people will do anything to avoid talking. However, communication is an important element in any romantic relationship.

Talking does not necessarily mean something boring and it is has been found that talking about interesting, funny, or entertaining subjects can rekindle the spark of romance. Remember the simple rule that asking people about themselves makes them feel important and someone with good self-esteem is a better partner and more likely to be romantic too.

Keep Idle Conversation on Positive Note

Instead of complaining about your own day, ask your partner about his or hers or talk about some funny piece of news or ask his or her opinion on something that has happened lately. Do not pick contentious topics and you should make an effort to ask about something you know your mate is interested in. Your partner will eventually reciprocate with questions for you as they begin to feel more comfortable with your communications.

In the first weeks and months of a romance, the partners spend lots of time together and teenagers in their first relationships spend hours on the phone. Even adults will run up huge telephone bills to talk to a sweetheart lending credence to the theory that taking time is essential to building a successful romance.

Of course, spending hours alone with each other is not practical for people for very long as everyone has other responsibilities they must eventually attend to. But the important thing is not to let those other responsibilities break into personal time with your mate to let romance have the chance to grow.

At least once each day, partners should take a minimum of ten or fifteen minutes to talk quietly, without distractions. This can be the few minutes before falling asleep or it can be over the breakfast table or on the train to work. The point is, romance will not flourish if no one spends time on it.

Author Details:
Jennifer Williams, copywriter for various web sites writing articles about romance and other related subjects.

Article Source: The A-Z of Romance

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